What words do you say when someone near and dear to you is going through a very difficult time? Are there any words that are enough? How do you comfort that person or is that even possible?
I wish I had the answers to all of those questions. Is dealing with the death of a loved one the same as dealing with any other hardship?
Even when heartfelt, words can sometimes seem so meaningless and ritualistic. I am sure the person suffering understands that there is nothing anybody can really do for them. Help lift their spirits and know that in time this too shall pass. Difficult words to swallow when you are the one suffering. But the truth remains, this too shall pass as the hands of father time tick away.
Difficult subject to talk about but I am sure you all may have some wonderful ideas on what you think makes a difference in people's lives when they are going through pain and suffering. Feel free to share. A wonderful day to all!!!!!
Sue,
ReplyDeleteHope this helps! Through my wanderings in life, I’ve been fortunate or unfortunate to be with people during great loss and big changes. I generally always start by acknowledging their loss or change, and then state something like this, “I might not quite understand what you are going through but I do know that your “normal” or what you understand as “normal” has been changed. In time you will find a new “normal” and I’m here to help you any way I can.” It sounds kind of generic but I feel, they just want to know or find comfort in you for just caring.
Trying that “blog” thing you started.
Bud
Just listen.....
ReplyDeleteSometimes the most comforting words are the ones unsaid.
Thanks Dusty for your insight.
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